Antenatal appointments can move quickly, and it is easy to walk out remembering the one thing you meant to ask. A small habit fixes most of it: keep a running list on your phone through the week, and take it in with you. Good care has time for your questions, and asking them is exactly how you stay informed.

Good questions for most appointments

• Is everything measuring and progressing as you would expect?
• Is there anything in my notes or results I should understand better?
• What are my options here, and what would you suggest, and why?
• What should prompt me to call before the next appointment?
• Where can I read more, from a source you trust?

If a test or intervention is suggested

When something is recommended, it is reasonable to ask what it is for, what saying yes would involve, and what saying no, or waiting, would mean. These questions are not awkward or difficult. They are how informed consent actually works, and a good clinician will welcome them.

There is no such thing as a silly question in a room about your body and your baby.

Keeping track between appointments

Pregnancy throws up questions at odd hours, and most are forgotten by the time you are in the chair. A single running note solves it. Add symptoms you want to mention, things you have read and want checked, and anything worrying you, however small. By the appointment, your list has written itself, and nothing important slips through.