Why Self-Care and Investing in Yourself Matters

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If you’d told me a year ago that I’d be writing about self-care and investing in myself, I’d probably have laughed (and maybe cried a little). As a mum of two—one a whirlwind nearly five-year-old and the other a clingy-but-cute ten-month-old—I’ve spent the last few years giving every ounce of myself to my family. But recently, I realised something important: I matter too.

It’s not about being selfish or indulgent—it’s about keeping myself sane, healthy, and happy so I can be the best version of me for my kids, my partner, and myself. And honestly? It’s been a game-changer.

1. The Reality of Motherhood (and Why Self-Care Is So Hard)

When you’re a mum, your days are packed. From wiping noses and changing nappies to navigating tantrums and endless snacks, it feels like there’s barely time to breathe. Add to that the mental load of appointments, laundry, and school deadlines, and self-care ends up at the very bottom of the to-do list (if it’s on there at all).

For me, it took hitting a wall—feeling drained, irritable, and just not myself—to realise something had to change. I couldn’t keep running on empty. I needed to find time for me, not just for my family’s sake, but for my own sanity.

How I Started Investing in Myself

I’ll admit, it felt weird at first. Saying, “I’m going to take this hour for myself” or “I need support” didn’t come naturally. But once I started, I realised how transformative it was. I didn’t have to do it all alone—and that’s where The Bubba & Me Club came in.

1. Finding Small Moments of Joy

Whether it was sneaking in five minutes of meditation, walking outside for some fresh air, or just enjoying a cup of tea while it was still hot, I started to prioritise small moments of calm. These little pockets of joy reminded me that even the smallest acts of self-care make a difference.

2. Learning to Ask for Help

This one was huge for me. I used to think that everything had to fall to me, but letting others step in—whether it was my partner, a friend, or even professional support—lightened my load and gave me the space to breathe.

3. Reconnecting with My Body

After two pregnancies, I felt like I didn’t recognise my body anymore. Exercise, yoga, nutrition and skincare treatments made a huge difference in how I felt about myself. It wasn’t about looking a certain way; it was about feeling strong, capable, and more like me.

Why Self-Care Isn’t Selfish

Here’s the thing: I used to think prioritising myself was taking something away from my children. But the truth is, when I feel good—physically, mentally, and emotionally—everything else runs smoother. I have more patience for my five-year-old’s endless “why” questions, more energy to play with my baby, and more confidence to take on the chaos of mum life.

When I take care of myself, I’m also setting an example for my children. I’m teaching them that it’s okay to ask for help, to set boundaries, and to value their own well-being. That lesson is worth its weight in gold.

Self-Care Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All

The beautiful thing about self-care is that it looks different for everyone. For some, it’s a weekly yoga class, a monthly book club or a long bath. For others, it’s connecting with a supportive community or simply catching up on sleep. What matters is that it works for you.

For me, self-care has meant focusing on:

• Education: Learning more about parenting and my own well-being.

• Connection: Finding people who understand it and can share the highs and lows.

• Healing: Giving my body the time and care it needs to recover and thrive.

Why You Should Start Now

If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that there’s never a perfect time to start investing in yourself. Life will always be busy, and there will always be something demanding your attention. But the sooner you prioritise your well-being, the better you’ll feel—not just for yourself, but for everyone around you.

Let’s Make Self-Care a Priority

If you’re not sure where to start, you’re not alone. The first step can feel daunting, but it doesn’t have to be big. Start small, whether it’s carving out five minutes a day or reaching out for support.

At The Bubba & Me Club we offer services to help you along the way, from antenatal and postnatal education to breastfeeding support, nutrition guidance, and even yoga and aesthetics treatments. Our holistic approach reminds you that self-care isn’t just about one thing—it’s about nurturing every part of you.

Let’s make 2025 the year we stop putting ourselves last and start investing in the care we deserve. Because when we thrive, our families do too. 💕